Ways for a Dominatrix to Control

The Inner Workings of Domination

There are many things that a dominatrix uses to control her submissive. There are a wide variety objects for physical punishment, such as whips, paddles, and even canes. A dominant will also use mental control on the submissive. The submissive will be able to pick up on verbal cues and follow them in order to meet the demands of his dominatrix.

Control is very important for a dominatrix. If she cannot exhibit the proper control on her submissive, she will then be unable to conduct the relationship as it was meant to be conducted. A dominatrix must always have the upper hand. In order for that to work, she must know how to use her control.

It is also important for a dominatrix to understand that the submissive wants to be controlled. He likes the idea of having his dominant in charge of his every move. Therefore, if a dominant fails to control the submissive, she is failing both participants. Even if the submissive fights her for control occasionally, the dominatrix needs to realize it is just a game and he wants her to have the power.

Whether the control is physical, mental, or emotional, it is powerful if it is exercised in the correct way. Often, the methods of control overlap. A dominatrix may use physical and emotional control during the same punishment in order to get the best results.

For instance, a dominatrix may use a whip to control her submissive. She will use the whip to spank her partner into submission. That will be the first phase of the punishment.

After she uses the whip, she then may take the punishment further by talking to the submissive about his behavior and taking away certain privileges. She will explain to the submissive why he was punished and why the behavior will not be tolerated. Those methods are well within the rights of a dominatrix.

A dominatrix may also use embarrassment to control her submissive. She could make the submissive do things that are uncomfortable for him, as long as they are within reason and do not harm the submissive in any way. This can be a very useful tool if it is properly utilized. Humiliation and embarrassment can be very strong deterrents for bad behavior.

As a person gets more used to being a dominatrix, she realizes what methods of control she likes to use. Those methods often become favorites, and are implemented often when controlling the submissive.